Dating when you have children
How do you say “I can’t have children” to someone you’re interested in?
These tips for telling your partner you can’t get pregnant are in response to a reader’s comment on my article about living with the fact that you’ll never have children.
Your relationship and partner will help you figure out when to discuss fertility and families.
If you’re dating a Philip who cares deeply about having children, then be prepared to discuss different options for having children.
Conceiving your own biological baby may be your first choice, but we don’t always get what we want!
So, learn about adoption, fertility treatments, surrogate motherhood, and other ways to get pregnant.
The more you know about in vitro fertilization, intrauterine insemination, sperm donors, and different ways to have a family, the better off you’ll be!
If you present your inability to get pregnant as the most depressing, sad, horrible, terrible thing that’s ever happened to you, then your partner may feel the same way.
In contrast, Sammy may want to date but not commit to a relationship for years, which may mean you don’t need to talk about having kids for ages.The ability to get pregnant isn’t something women have control over — it’s a health issue that has nothing to do with how smart, lovable, beautiful, or worthy you are.If you can’t have children, don’t fall into the trap of feeling “less than” other women.If you can’t accept and love yourself, you can’t expect your partner to.
Female infertility, no matter how it was caused, isn’t a sign of a less valuable, less beautiful, or less desirable woman.
If you don’t have a confirmed “infertility diagnosis”, you might want to read 5 Ways to Overcome Fertility Problems.